thesoulsurgeon

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson 25

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #25

By Venus Souls

🌺 On a spiritual journey that will never end 🌺

People often note that I come across as someone who is on a journey, is curious, and seems to always be learning something new, different or very unusual. It is very true that I am. Aren’t we all?

The Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell which I have studied extensively, is not just about the stories that we read in books or watch on television. It is our stories which we create day by day, hour by hour. They are the stories which form our lives. Often times we get stuck in a particular section of the narrative and don’t know how to get out. It keeps going like a broken record and it becomes more painful to experience as time goes by and nothing changes. Same experience, different characters. Why? What lesson are we supposed to be learning but we’re not?

God loves stories. What if every single one of us is meant to create an epic ballad? What if the only thing standing in our way is us?

 

“Do not rely on the outer world as your measuring stick for your own spiritual growth. Rely on your response to the outer world to determine how much you have grown.” 

— Bashar

I invite you to put your skepticism aside for a few moments and ask yourself the following question. I mean, really ask yourself and believe it to be true:

⭐️What if every moment in your life is – always has been, always will be – a holy and sacred moment but you’ve not been present enough to experience it or too afraid?

⭐️ What if every moment was simply there to present a choice for you between love and fear and decision to make that has in its power to alter your life trajectory and take you to a place you never thought was possible? 

⭐️ What if the most painful experiences of your life could be healed in a moment and never reoccur again?

⭐️ What if you knew this to be the ultimate Truth: You are a most divine and sacred being and NOTHING you can say or do will ever change that.

You are a powerful, creative, loving, nurturing, giving, compassionate spirit and the pain you feel is a measure of the distance between your self image and your behaviour.

Everything that happens in your life gives you an opportunity to close that distance. It gives you a chance to choose between love and fear. If you choose fear, the pain will keep reoccurring until you’ve learnt that lesson. When you choose love, you stand more firmly in your authentic power.

My faith and strength is tested every single day, and the higher I climb, the scarier it becomes to look down. And I do fall. And when I do, the pain seems deeper at first but then somehow dissipates when I remember that I am made with love and of love and there’s nothing love can’t fix or change or dissolve. 

Suddenly my back straightens and I get up and dust off the fall and, stronger than ever and more determined, I find the answers I need to get to the next stage of the journey. 

The journey is never smooth but then again it was never meant to be. It would be short, boring and unfulfilling if it were. I want to get to the end of my journey and still have so many stories to tell my friends, loved ones and new faces of how I overcame my fears. And who knows, my stories may hold the key to helping them overcome theirs, too. 

I always need to remind myself not to get perturbed by how long the distance seems to be or how challenging the obstacles are. The only way for me to do this is to share my growth with others and to contribute to their growth. To add value to their lives in the hope that it will bring love and light to the areas of their lives where they need it the most. This is a lesson I learnt the hard way and I will never forget it. 

Humans have a poor memory. Hindsight is easier but too late. Foresight is key: keep your eyes on your purpose, your why, keep them aligned with your values, and the answers will soon come to you.

Thank you for reading.

PS. I’ve started a new facebook group which I intend to be a good place for people to share their values with others and contribute to their growth. I will also be posting lots of exciting opportunities for more growth, love, and contribution in the coming days, weeks, months and years and I want to share it all with you.

Here’s the link and I’ll see you there! 

Love & light

Venus xo

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson 26

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #26

By Venus Souls

Fear looks like this.

When I look back to reflect upon the opportunities I had missed and the uncompleted projects or the journeys I backtracked on, I know that the only reason was fear.

Fear looks like a heart pumping with dread. It looks like visions of failed version of you, slumped in a corner, grieving the loss of a piece of itself.

Fear feels like shrinking. One minute you’re open to life and all its possibilities, the next you’re locked tight shut, 2 inches long, unable to breathe, speak or hear anything above your own pumping heartbeat.

“For it is not what happens to me that makes me great, but it is what I do.” 

— Søren Kierkegaard

Fear is the ultimate shapeshifter. It can take the shape of your parents or your teacher. It can look like your boss or the debt collector. It can even look like God.

But when you finally grab the courage to sit down with it and listen to what it’s trying to say, you realise that fear has been given a really bad rep and all it really intends is to keep you alive.

Fear is like that awkward friend who loves you so much and just wants to hangout with you wherever you go and because it has saved your life on numerous occasions, you simply don’t have the heart to tell it to get lost. 

Instead you try to train your courage muscle and swallow that lump in your throat each time fear starts screaming DANGER! and try to steady your heart before it leaps out of your chest. You ask a friend to hold your hand through it and fear suddenly calms down and realises it’s not needed in that moment.

You see, fear is loudest and most deafening when the support is lacking. When the support is lacking, courage is nowhere to be found to face the fear. We imagine that no one cares or that we are unworthy and undeserving of support and that fear is right; that we should stop what we are doing and go back to where it was safe and comfortable. The road ahead is treacherous and there are wild beasts waiting to devour you in the form of failure and disease.

Coaches will ask you, what if you knew you could never fail, what would you do then?

You imagine the things that you would accomplish, the projects you would complete, the life you would have…

Most importantly, you would imagine the love you would experience because success somehow equates to worthiness of love.

Instead, we should ask, what would we do if we knew we would always be loved, no matter how our endeavours end and what the results were? What if we knew we were loved unconditionally? How much more could we accomplish?

The antidote to fear is not courage. The only antidote to fear is love. Fear is simply a messenger trying to tell you that in this moment you’re about to embark on something new, you’re going to need an extra dose of love and support from those who love you unconditionally.

So next time someone asks you for your support, know that what they’re really asking from you is to dissipate their fears. You may not agree or like what they’re doing but that is not what they’re asking of you. You may not know or understand what they’ve been called upon to do but that’s irrelevant. You’ve just got to hold their hand and SHOW them they have nothing to be afraid of because your love is unconditional. 

Love overpowers fear every time. Love is the greatest creator of all. 

But what about those  of us on the fringe. The recluses, the rebels, the misfits, the ones who see things differently… where do they go to find love?

They don’t.  Love for the dream that overpowers all else is what keeps them going. Love for the purpose, for the service, for the destiny. Love for the people who are waiting for them to get to the other side of fear is worth the leap of faith, worth the cuts and bruises, the sacrifices, the sweat and the blood. 

Those are the ones who God loves the most. 

 

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #27

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #27

By Venus Souls

Who am I?

The question may surprise you, dear reader, because you may be thinking you’re the only one who contemplates this question on a daily basis. If you are one of those who doesn’t, kudos. You’re a rare breed. I will assume it is because you’ve got an unwavering set of core values and a clear message and purpose you know you are placed on this planet to serve. For some of us – those of us who’ve had a few wars to win first before we could finally sit down and think about it – the calling arrived a little differently but it was clear from the start that not knowing who you are, or what your values are, you will go through life never living the life you want to live or achieving the goals and dreams you want to achieve. 

Your life is the direct manifestation of your values, whether you are conscious and intentional about them or not. To know your values, you must first get clarity on your identity. Who are you?

“You’ve got to find yourself first. Everything else’ll follow.”

— Charles de Lint

So, who am I?

I am a rebel. 

I questioned every authority that ever said no to me or rejected me, or told me I was forbidden from doing something. Starting with what they called god… and ending with me. 

It turned out that it was easy to rebel against all of them – the god figure was easiest of all. But when it came to the voice inside of me that told me I could not do this… well, that was my toughest war.

Because that rebellious voice loved to say no. Whenever someone told meI couldn’t do something, I just did it anyway. Breaking the rules is fun; it has a certain thrill and rush to it, for sure, but most of it was painful. Each ‘no’ cost me a ton of pain. I was methodically ostracised from every group I was told I belonged to until I could not belong anywhere. 

It took me years to embrace my reality and stand in a power so immense, it transcended all boundaries and barriers. It was a spiritual, soulful power and when you own that power, you belong everywhere. 

And so, after decades spent in rebellion and diaspora, I looked up and wondered what it was all for? What now? Why am I here? Who am I if I don’t have a journey and a message to communicate? What else was all this suffering for?

I brought down my personal patriarchy. Now what? The patriarchy is coming down – now what? Are we actually free? No, we’re not. Is this the end? No, it’s not even begun yet!

So what do we do now?

We pick up the pieces and we piece them together the right way and throw the pieces we don’t need away. We start rebuilding ourselves.

We stand in our power and we empower.

We live with passion and impassion.

We rise and we raise. 

That is my message. 

We need to go on a journey to find out who we were before all the pain. Before we were conditioned to be who they needed us to be. We need to go deeper than we ever thought possible. We need to peel off the layers one layer at a time till we find that core we cradle at night in our darkest hour; that hour we are most connected with ourselves and most loving and present.

My sister, Lisa Nichols, said to me:

Take off the ‘I have something to prove’ layer.

Take off the ‘I have something to protect’ layer.

Take off the ‘I have something to hide’ layer.

Take off the ‘I have something to defend’ layer.

Who is the person underneath all those layers? Beneath the anguish and the anger and the resentment and despair?

Just imagine how magically beautiful that person is. How incredibly fascinating they are. How engaging, How illuminating. How loving. How giving. How influential. How powerful…

This is who I am, who I must be and whose message is, when I stand in my own power, I am able to empower.

When I live with passion, I will impassion.

When I rise, I will raise.

That’s my superpower. That’s my Venusian soul. 

What’s yours?

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #28

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #28

By Venus Souls

Music is the most powerful language in the world.

It transforms, heals, connects, opens us wide open and moves us in immeasurable ways.

I could bore you with the science behind it or you could look around you and believe it.

“ Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything.” 

— Plato

Preaching to the choir, I know (pun unintended). I will add this, however:

Anyone or any system/cult/religion that tells you music is forbidden or must be limited to one genre or type of music or that it is the route of all evil…. is lying to you and you should run from them as far as your legs could carry you and make sweet music till you die.

End of lesson. 

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon in Blog, Health & Fitness, Leadership and Empowerment, Love and Relationships, Spirituality, Values, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #29

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #29

By Venus Souls

Yes! And…

What is life but an oversubscribed improv class?

And what is the number one rule of improve class?

“In a growth mindset, challenges are exciting rather than threatening. So rather than thinking, oh, I’m going to reveal my weaknesses, you say, wow, here’s a chance to grow.” 

— Carol S. Dweck

Whatever comes your way, say: “YES! And…”

Bring it. My arms, heart and mind are open wide. I surrender to what may come. 

This mental hack has left me pleasantly surprised each and every time. Wether it was lemons or strawberries, the smoothie was still delicious.

Life’s experiences – both opportunities and obstacles – are the aid to your growth. Saying: “YES!” is acceptance of the challenge. “And” is your willingness to allow the experience to add to your growth. 

Life happens for you – not to you.

Nothing is in the way – it’s on the way. 

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #30

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #30

By Venus Souls

I was moving over the weekend and somewhere between the heavy lifting and the process of transforming the chaos of old into a new order in a new home, I stared at my set of keys which had been growing over the past year in particular into a sizeable and heavy bunch that included all sorts. Sheds, a car, a new flat, an old flat, a classroom, postboxes… Some old keys which I fail to recognise, perhaps from another lifetime… Different cuts, different shapes and weights… 

I thought about how keys symbolise opportunities and success in our modern culture and are even a talisman for good luck. They symbolise power to open doors and close them, too. We often talk about how the ‘key’ to this is that. We use the word ‘key’ to describe notes in music as well as the parts of the musical instruments themselves. 

A key opens up something we want, something we need. It unlocks something to release something marvellous. Even in Arabic, the word ‘muftah’ connotes ‘to open’. 

“They key of persistence opens all door closed by resistance ” 

— John Di Lemme

But looking at my growing bunch of keys I also saw and felt the weight of growing responsibilities in my life. How, for every key I have in my chain, I had worked very hard to get it and had to keep working hard to maintain and keep it. 

Life is not short of opportunities for success, abundance and continuous growth and getting the key is actually the easy part. The real heavy lifting starts after you get it.

I think about all the keys I’ve lost over the years as well as the ones I’ve gained. How I keep them all in one set so that I don’t lose them. 

One of my strongest values is that I see myself as the protector of my family and so looking after my keys is about protecting them. Even this seemingly small act of looking after my set of keys is part of my deep value system; that I will not put myself or my children at risk if it can be helped.

Of course I have had my fair share of mishaps. I locked my car keys inside my car once. That day I discovered my saintly mum could break into a car using a clothes’ hanger! I believe she’s the one who passed on this great value to me.

You will always be told how you must seize opportunities for success but little is ever shared with us about how to make it and keep it. Goals are often shortsighted and aim for temporary results that could be delivered quickly and easily. But nothing worthwhile is ever achieved this way and whatever is achieved is short-lived.

Now I look at my heavy set of keys to remind myself that with patience, continuous and consistent hard work armed with a passionate set of strong values, I will eventually get the keys I want and let go of the ones I do not need anymore. 

What key do you dream of possessing? 

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #31

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #31

By Venus Souls

It’s only lesson 31 and already I’m writing with fire in my veins. Perhaps it’s the daily vulnerability I experience when I blog my #40at40 or perhaps it’s the electrifying inspiration I’m getting from connecting with some of the most beautiful soul sisters and brothers I’ve had the privilege of finding recently but it’s taken me 39 years, 11 months and a day to finally and clearly see who I am and fully realise the power that’s within me and the power I want to give to others. You may read this and say: “Well, duh! How did you not figure this out till now?!” – I promise you, I didn’t.  was too busy ‘doing it’. This is my biggest ‘a-ha’ moment. Ever. 

Dear Readers

I am a rebel. An underdog. The lethal kind.

How do I know?

When I was not allowed to go to language schools because my parents feared it would corrupt my morals and intellect (whereas that’s where my siblings received their education), I taught myself English. I mastered it. My first job and for 16 years, I’ve been teaching English to the English. 

Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.

— Steve Jobs, 1997

At the age of 11, when I was told by my teachers that I could not write stories because English wasn’t my first language, I grew up and wrote and got my stories and poetry published. In English. I even got a Masters in Creative Writing. In English. I became a master of creative writing. In English.

When I was told I wasn’t allowed to play sports, when I became so obese and my diabetes became so difficult to manage it was killing me slowly, I trained my body and whipped it into athlete shape. 

When my first son was born with autism and no one could tell me what I could do to support him, I raised a perfectly functioning, talented game developer then went to teach and coach in a school for autistic children.

When I was told I was not fit for leadership, I trained and qualified to train executive intelligent leadership in all sectors and became CEO of my own limited company.

They told me to shut up and lay low. I went and trained as a public speaker. Oh, and I was keynote speaker in Swedish parliament on behalf of Arab women.

When they told me I was too weak and vulnerable to survive without my ex husband and raise two kids on my own, one of whom had significant additional needs, and abandoned me to prove it, guess what I did? 

I have a ton more stories to share… but

The moral of the story is

It’s their limiting beliefs – not yours. Let them try and stop you. 

If you want to catch some of my fire and transform your life, click here and let’s connect. 

Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t. 

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #32

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #32

By Venus Souls

Some of you may know that I studied astrology for a while. There is always something mystical surrounding astrology and zodiac signs and we all repeat what they say like parrots without truly understanding what any of it really means and how it works or why does it mean this or that. How could it be that there are only 12 zodiac signs and an infinite variety of characters within each sign? Yet there are people accepting this ludicrous idea and plan their daily lives and relationships according to it! So I just had to get to the bottom of it once and for all.

It is your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny..”

Anthony Robbins

I took a few courses and read a lot of books. My friends were impressed to say the least at how accurate my readings were. In the end, I recognised that it was still an imperfect way to study who we are and why we are here. What I personally took from it was a simple but powerful concept: “As above so is below”. Meaning that as the stars and planets align themselves and move and change, these movements will be reflected within our selves and our lives. It is no different and beautifully complements Carl Jung’s assertion: “As within so without”. In other words, our realities are projections of our psyche makeup. In metaphysical terms, we receive the exact same energy that we put out into the world.

What this meant to me was that everything – absolutely everything – is a reflection or accurate manifestation of the spectrum of energies you are vibrating at. Your reality is the manifestation of your thoughts, beliefs, principles, characteristics, values – your overall blueprint. Your blueprint vibrates at a specific frequency and that frequency is matched in your reality. If you wanted to improve your reality, you have to consistently and for a prolonged period of time make the decision and follow it up with actions to change your frequency and vibrate your energies at the level you wish to be. This means changing your blueprint in significant ways, including your core beliefs, emotional patterns and thoughts. This often requires a complete reinvention of who you are and what you stand for if you want to significantly change your life.

In Jungian terms, we project onto the world what we hold within our psyche. If we love or admire someone, we do so because we see parts of our psyche which we accept in them or we aspire to develop that part within us. If we develop dislike towards someone, it’s because we see in them the reflection of our darker traits which we hate to acknowledge or refuse to accept.

(Wo)man’s mission on earth seems to be to figure out who they are and what does it all mean. All the sciences and arts are the result of our search for meaning. And in the process of learning who we are, we learn how we connect as a race and as a species and how we connect to the rest of the universe. From the atom to the solar system and beyond, we witness the miracle that is the intricate sophistication of a creation that we still remain infinitely ignorant of – the more we learn the less we know.

And so our myths, our stories, our religions, even our political and social systems, all attempt to organise and unite us against the fear of chaos which is most amusing since nothing around us is chaotic. Everything is in perfect rhyme, rhythm and synchronicity working to a divine natural ‘clock’ which measures Balance rather Than time. Chaos and Order are nothing but a mirror reflection of what we hold within ourselves.

If our reality is but a mirror refection of what we hold and carry within ourselves, then it’s us who have the ultimate power to change our reality. Everything we have in our lives is a reflection of our standards. And our standards are a reflection of what we think and believe is possible and what we accept and tolerate. We are where we are based on what we think and based on the behaviour these thoughts produce. 

Steve Jobs once said that his life purpose was “to put a dent in the Universe”. Our reality is the manifestation of our beliefs. We are the creators and designers of our lives.  

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #33

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #33

By Venus Souls

I’ve been trying to come up with a list of all the things I’ve regretted doing but every time I do that, I end up with a list of things I have regretted not doing. Because even the foolish things I did were fruitful in some ways. But how could things you didn’t do bear any fruit?

 I hear people often say they have no regrets. How could this be possible? If you fail to regret you will never learn from your failures. Regret means growth. It means self compassion and giving yourself a second and a hundredth chance to do better. In the past, my ego was too proud to admit that I did wrong and would brush the failure to one side and continue as if nothing had happened. Growing up meant becoming more conscious and accountable, I had to sit down and take an inventory of my regrets. With compassion, I tell myself: If I knew better, I would have done better. With determination I say: how can I learn from these regrettable mistakes? This is the only way to learn from failures and make sure we don’t waste more time making the same ugly mistakes over and over again.

If I were to die tonight, here are some of the things I would regret (I’ve had to limit them to 50 otherwise I’d be here all day) and the things which I have fixed but still wish I could do better:

“I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations — one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it — you will regret both.”

Soren Kierkegaard

  1. I regret not taking more pictures and videos of my children growing up. I should have taken at least one photo per day (note to self: take a photo a day and sneak in a video a week).
  2. I regret not saying ‘no’ more often to people who would have never valued my effort nor my time.
  3. I regret not paying attention to what my gifts are
  4. I regret following the crowd even briefly.
  5. I regret being too careful and not taking enough risks
  6. I regret giving some people a tenth chance.
  7. I regret not being true to myself.
  8. I regret not reading more books and teaching myself to speed read
  9. I regret believing the marriage fairytale (except it brought me my kids so I’m grateful for that)
  10. I regret taking up smoking.
  11. I regret betraying myself and others even when I was well intentioned
  12. I regret doubting and second guessing myself
  13. I regret not travelling more
  14. I regret not telling my parents enough how much I love them
  15. I regret not taking up or studying art
  16. I regret not spending more time with animals
  17. I regret not spending more time with friends and family
  18. I regret thinking that we could fix our country by fixing our politics and politicians
  19. I regret not living in the moment often enough
  20. I regret not consistently keeping a journal
  21. I regret not writing as often as I should have
  22. I regret the times I wished to be invisible because I was too afraid to shine
  23. I regret the times when my faith wavered
  24. I regret the times when I did not surrender
  25. I regret not being more present with my sons
  26. I regret wasting so much time and energy on pleasing some people
  27. I regret suffering fools
  28. I regret not giving some people the benefit of the doubt
  29. I regret not creating more art
  30. I regret not helping enough, not empowering enough, not reaching out enough
  31. I regret not giving enough love and compassion to others and waiting for them to ask for it.
  32. I regret not learning to play a musical instrument
  33. I regret not learning another language
  34. I regret judging people
  35. I regret not drinking enough water
  36. I regret not getting creative in the kitchen
  37. I regret not exercising my creativity often enough
  38. I regret not learning how to dive or sail
  39. I regret not climbing mountains
  40. I regret not doing more for charity
  41. I regret not allowing myself to be more silly
  42. I regret taking things too seriously at times
  43. I regret taking so long to forgive people
  44. I regret listening to my ego
  45. I regret anger when I should have been more understanding
  46. I regret expecting a return on love when mine should have been unconditional
  47. I regret not being naughty enough at school!
  48. I regret giving up on my favourite sports in adulthood
  49. I regret choosing consumerism over creation
  50. I regret not speaking up anyway when my voice was trembling
Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon in Blog, Health & Fitness, Love and Relationships, Spirituality, Values, 0 comments

40 Lessons at 40: Lesson #34

40 Lessons at 40

Lesson #34

By Venus Souls

I have learnt the hard way that freedom is the single most important right one must always fight for. That all our endeavours ultimately revolve around gaining and practising our right to absolute freedom and independence. As a woman of colour raised in a traditional, muslim family – with a strong allegiance to patriarchy – in the West, I have had my fair share of challenges that have only strengthened my conviction to empower women everywhere to embrace and practise their freedom.

I’ve been labelled ‘rebel’ so often as a child, I wondered if it was my middle name. When they said it, they made it sound like it was an insult, a dirty word. Like I was somehow less for wanting more. A rebel is someone who goes against the tide but to me I just fought for what I believed was right and just. Freedom, I was told, was not for me. It was for the heathens and badly behaved women of society. What would I do with freedom, I was constantly asked. I, apparently a more refined breed, was destined for the 7 Prisons: mental prison, emotional prison, physical prison, intellectual prison, technological prison, financial prison and spiritual prison.

“Freedom is nothing but a chance to be better.”

Albert Camus

This is not a blogpost about victimhood or about naming and shaming my prison guards. I am grateful to have been so challenged that my rebel muscle has become supernatural. No one understands the value of freedom more than someone who’s known the pains of prison for so long. It becomes your driving force and motivation towards even greater freedom.

Everyone has experienced being held behind the bars of at least one of those prisons. I did not see those bars until I grew much older and saw them for what they were. It took me years to realise I was deeply conditioned to think and behave in a certain way and I only realised it once I got out of my comfort zones and saw how much damage this conditioning had done.

Everyone has their own style of fighting and their own weapon of choice. Mine was reading. The first prison door I broke was my intellectual one. I read like books were going out of style. I read the words of those who wrote freely about freedom or about oppression and how they wished to be released. I read all the books I was never allowed to read. I read about all the religions and sects within them. I read the myths and legends of different people to understand their blueprints. I read all the different opinions, debates, arguments, stories, myths… whatever I could get my hands on, I read. My mental muscle grew and broke its chains and with that the rest of my chains fell apart and it was easier to disentangle myself out of them.

It was not the ideas themselves that I found most liberating but the fact that we are, as a race, capable of such a variety and diversity of ideas that it seemed illogical to me that there was a monopoly on the truth or being ‘absolutely right’ and dictating how everyone else should think. Group thinking, where a group believes they have a monopoly on the truth and therefore how they do things is the only right way of doing it, is how cults rise and freedoms fall. Every group thinks they are the chosen people and all chosen people believe they’re the only ones going to heaven and everyone else is going to hell. In truth, this is how they have created hell right here on earth.

I’m amazed that there are still people who fear freedom – their own as well as others’. People who risk losing control over people’s lives are often the ones who despise it the most. I’ve seen people kill one another fighting over their fear of losing control. They are the prisoners of their own fears. Fear is the walls and bars of those prisons holding us back from our right to freedom.

Without freedom, we are not free to be who we are. We are not free to be true and authentic because we are constantly under threat. When we are unable to be who we are, our access to our god given limitless resourcefulness and creativity becomes limited, so does our growth, so does our contribution to the rest of the world.  When there is no freedom there is only fear and all our words and actions are laced with it.

To be free is to know who you are, what your gifts are, what your purpose is, and how you could be a better version of yourself for yourself and others. I fight for my freedom every single day and make sacrifices to protect it every single day. I never take it for granted. There are still chains that are more difficult to unlock than others but I know I will eventually get rid of all of them. And I make it my mission to show other women and men how it is done.

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Posted by thesoulsurgeon in Blog, Health & Fitness, Love and Relationships, Spirituality, Values, 0 comments